Want to have hot, passionate sex that will leave your man begging for more? Who doesn’t? Spicing things up in the bedroom can take your relationship to the next level with these kinky sex ideas and boost intimacy between you and your partner.
In this ultimate guide, I’ll be sharing 30 kinky yet doable sex ideas that will transform your sex life from boring to on fire! From using blindfolds to roleplaying, these tips will make him crave you like never before.
So if you want your boyfriend or husband addicted to having sex with you, then you’ll love these naughty ideas. Let’s begin!
1. Talk Dirty and Tease Him With Your Words
Dirty talk amplifies the erotic factor instantly. It builds sexual tension and leaves you both gagging for each other’s bodies.
Here are some ways to talk dirty and tease your man:
- Whisper naughty things in his ear when you’re out together e.g. “I’m not wearing any panties right now” or “I can’t wait to put my lips around you when we get home”.
- Send him teasing texts during the day about what you want to do to him later.
- Compliment his body and tell him all the ways you want to explore it.
- Use filthy descriptive words like cock, wet, pound etc.
Check out the Dirty Talking Examples for more tips and ideas on talking dirty.
2. Blindfold Him
Depriving your man of his sight instantly induces a thrilling sense of vulnerability. Blindfolds are a simple yet highly erotic prop you can use to build anticipation.
Once he’s blindfolded, tease his body slowly with ice cubes, warm chocolate or champagne before finally devouring him with your mouth. Or lead him to different rooms and enjoy his reactions to not knowing what’s coming next!
3. Use Restraints
Similar to blindfolds, restraints leave your man utterly under your control. Tie his hands together, handcuff him to the bed or completely hogtie him for maximum kink points!
Once he’s restrained, take complete charge. Ride him, edge him with blow jobs, use sex toys on him – the options are limitless.
Restrain your man and take control!
4. Get Rough With Him
Rough, primal sex can create incredible intimacy between you and your man. Use the following tips to unleash the inner cavewoman in you!
- Scratch or bite him gently during intimate moments.
- Spank his behind using just your hand or a paddle.
- Pull his hair from the roots while kissing or doing the dirty.
- Choke him lightly (with care!) or pinch his nipples.
Roughing up your man releases pleasure hormones in his brain and intensifies the sexual experience.
5. Give Him a Show
What’s hotter than watching your sexy vixen pleasuring herself? Give your man an erotic treat by letting him watch you masturbate.
Make eye contact, moan loudly and use toys for extra sauciness! If you want to take things up a notch, why not stream yourself masturbating so he can tune in from anywhere?
6. Initiate Spontaneous Quickies
Nothing beats red-hot “I need you now” sex. Keep him on his toes by initiating spontaneous quickies around the house or out in public!
Push him against the wall, unzip his pants and go down on him. Or slide your panties off and straddle him without warning.
Acting on urge rather than overthinking seductions makes the sex electric.
7. Roleplay Naughty Fantasies
Roleplaying allows you to act out your wildest fantasies in a safe, judged-free environment. Discuss ideas first then pretend to be other characters, experimenting with sexy scenarios like:
- Student and teacher
- Masseuse and client
- Strangers at a bar
- Bored housewife and the repairman
Use props and costumes to fully immerse yourselves. Roleplaying builds intimacy and reveals secret desires you never knew you had!
8. Get Adventurous Outdoors
Having sex outdoors injects thrilling exhilaration into your love life.
Try getting frisky in semi-public places like:
- Secluded hiking trails
- Under the stars late at night
- Empty changing rooms
- The backseat of your car
The risk of getting caught makes outdoor play deliciously hot yet nerve-wracking. Just be responsible and avoid breaking public indecency laws.
Bring the heat into nature!
9. Film Yourselves Getting Naughty
Making a sex tape can be an incredibly bonding experience. And watching footage of your steamy sessions afterwards is sure to get you excited for round 2!
Discuss boundaries first and only share the video between yourselves. Setup your camera or smartphone securely so you can both relax and enjoy the action.
10. Give Him a Lapdance
Your man will go wild watching you grind and twerk on his lap. Crank the heat up further by stripping for him first.
Wear sexy lingerie and heels for extra allure. Then once you’re down to your last item, straddle him and slowly remove it. Now work your magic!
11. Use Toys Together
Sex toys open up a treasure chest of scintillating new sensations. Try using the following toys together for thrilling foreplay and deeper orgasms:
- Vibrators – Rub these against the clitoris or his frenulum.
- Cock rings – Slip one around the base of his penis to restrict blood flow and amplify hardness.
- Butt plugs – Slide one into him while he pleasures you. Intense!
Browse quality toys online together and experiment to find out what works for you. Toys unite couples, boost intimacy and deliver mind-blowing orgasms!
Enhance intimacy with toys!
12. Watch Porn Together
Here’s an easy way to get inspired for new sexual adventures: watching porn together!
Browse steamy videos as a couple, discussing what turns you on. Emulate the acts you both find sexy. Does a particular fantasy scene spark ideas? Discuss trying something similar yourselves!
Use porn to unlock each other’s secret desires. Then make those dreams reality between the two of you.
13. Give Him a Naked Massage
Treat your special man to some tantalizing touch therapy. Here’s how to perform an erotic naked massage on your boyfriend:
Set the scene – Dim the lights, play relaxing music and spread out towels on your bed. Have massage oil and condoms nearby.
Undress – Slowly remove your clothing in front of him to build anticipation.
Get hands-on – Have him lie face down and begin massaging his body using long, firm strokes. Pay extra attention to his muscles knots and erogenous zones for maximum pleasure.
Turn up heat – Once he’s fully relaxed, straddle his bum and continue massaging. As he gets aroused, you can begin grinding against him.
Go all the way – Flip him over and keep massaging his front. When you’re both ready for full release, smoothly transition into passionate sex.
14. Initiate Morning Sex
One of the best times for hot sex is first thing in the morning. Taking your man by surprise with sleepy sex is a sure fire way to start the day in the best possible manner!
Try stirring him awake by stroking his manhood under the covers. Or slide down and begin planting delicate kisses down his torso, working your way lower and lower…
Early morning sex boosts energy, lifts mood and builds intimacy. So set your alarms 30 minutes earlier going forward!
15. Play Hard To Get
You’re probably used to your man being the one chasing you. But sometimes assuming the role of seducer yourself can be a thrilling challenge!
Here are ways to dust off classic hard-to-get moves:
- Leave flirty yet vague text responses to his messages
- Cancel plans unexpectedly due to “something coming up”
- Exit the room quickly after initiating a passionate kiss
Dangle the carrot and make him work for your affections. Being hard to get ignites exciting feelings of conquest within men.
16. Perform a Sexy Striptease
Every guy fantasizes about having a sexy woman perform an erotic striptease just for him. So it’s time to slip into something sultry, cue the music and tease your man with the performance of a lifetime!
Slowly reveal your body piece by piece, gyrating your hips and caressing yourself. Maintain eye contact and respond to his reactions. Gradually remove your bra and panties, then finally crawl over and mount him.
Stripteases are hugely arousing and boost body confidence. So unleash your inner diva!
17. Talk About Fantasies
Open and honest conversations about sexual fantasies can significantly amplify the passion between you.
First create a safe non-judgemental environment. Reassure your partner that desires don’t have to become reality, but simply sharing and listening without shame is liberating.
Now confess your topmost sultry fantasies first. Maybe you’ve always dreamt of having sex in public? Or introducing toys into the bedroom?
Let your partner share next without interruption. Discussing fantasies promotes deeper connections and trusts. And the most thrilling ones can be explored together if you both consent.
18. Give Him a Naughty Wakeup Call
If waking your man up with kisses doesn’t grab him, try getting a little naughtier by:
- Sliding under the covers and slowly licking his morning glory.
- Climbing on top cowgirl-style and inserting him inside you.
- Straddling his face and leaning forward for 69 oral pleasure.
Risqué wakeup calls guarantee your man rises with a smile!
19. Praise His Sex Skills
Want to boost your man’s confidence between the sheets? Verbally praise his lovemaking skills:
- During sex – Moan phrases like “Oh that feels so good!” and “Just like that baby!”. Encourage him with explicit feedback.
- After sex – Whisper “You really know how to use that cock, I can’t move my legs!” into his ear. Stroke his ego!
Complimenting your partner’s sexual prowess gives them a psychological edge to perform at their peak every time.
20. Surprise Him When He Gets Home
Catch your husband off guard after a long day at work by greeting him at the door wearing racy lingerie. A warm smile, deep kiss and come-hither eyes should remove any hints of stress instantly!
Lead him to the couch, have him sit comfortably and give him a lap dance followed by mind-blowing oral till his eyes roll back.
Better yet, try learning a choreographed dance beforehand to completely blow his mind. What a memorable way for both of you to destress!
21. Play Sex Games
Sex games add playfulness to your love life. They build anticipation, sexual tension and incredible orgasmic climaxes.
Here are some classic sex games to play with your partner:
- Strip poker – For each hand lost, remove one item of clothing. The first fully naked person wins!
- Naked Twister – The rules are simple: don’t fall or touch the floor during this nude twisty tangle. Last person standing receives oral sex.
- Sexy charades – Act out raunchy phrases and movie titles for your partner to guess. First to 10 correct answers gets a sensual massage!
Plenty more naughty game suggestions on the list of 50 sex games.
Make foreplay entertaining with sex games!
22. Read Erotica Together
Erotica novels offer sensual excitement and titillating storylines absent in visual porn. Reading sexy fiction as a couple introduces fantasy scenarios in vivid detail.
Take turns reading passages aloud, acting out the dialogue. Discuss which steamy scenes excite you both the most. Try reenacting these moments yourself for thrilling roleplay.
Great erotic book suggestions:
- Fifty Shades of Grey
- Delta of Venus
- Memoirs of a Woman of Pleasure
Soon his hands might start wandering as imaginative images dance in both your heads!
23. Perform a Sexy Dance
We’ve covered lap dances and stripteases already. Now try choreographing a full-blown sultry dance number that will make his jaw drop!
Think burlesque show performances with feather boas, leg kicks and hip swaying. Or emulate steaming music video dance routines.
Recruit a girlfriend to help craft sexy choreography. Then surprise your man by strutting in wearing fishnets, heels and a leotard before displaying your shiny new moves.
He won’t be able to resist joining in! Dancing bolsters confidence sizzles up romance and showcases your smoking-hot figure.
24. Go Lingerie Shopping Together
Make a date out of hitting up a boutique lingerie store together. Have him select enticing pieces for you to try on like corsets, teddies, bra & panty sets.
Model the lingerie for him in the change rooms. Judge by his ogling eyes and bulging trousers which ones to purchase for upcoming special nights.
Lingerie shopping expeditions increase anticipation for what’s to come later. They also reveal his preferences so you can continue surprising him with items tailored to his taste.
25. Watch Yourselves In The Mirror
Seeing your bodies intertwined from different angles during the throes of passion is strangely erotic.
Try positioning a full-length mirror beside your bed so you can both view the action. The visual stimulation might be so electrifying that you struggle to glance away!
Studying one another’s forms and facial expressions mid-bliss makes the pleasure reverberate on deeper levels.
Mirrors give intimate new perspectives
26. Film Your Porn
As mentioned previously, creating your own amateur porn can hugely amplify intimacy and trust. But what if you edited clips of your steamy sessions into an actual adult film?
Use flattering angles, moody lighting, sexy costumes and props. Interlay footage with closeups and even record voiceovers.
Adding atmosphere through background music builds tension. Maintaining eye contact with the camera also heightens viewer immersion.
Once your sultry cinematic creation is complete, grab the popcorn and enjoy your intimate home movie premiere!
27. Read Each Other Steamy Bedtime Stories
Trade taking turns narrating erotic tales aloud when you go to bed. Share graphic descriptions of your hottest sexual fantasies. Your creativity is the only limit to how naughty the plotlines can get!
Vivid storytelling coupled with hands gently caressing each other under the sheets sets the stage for blazing midnight playtimes.
Building enticing scenes also reveals buried fantasies you never knew you harbored, which can then be indulged in later.
28. Play Master & Servant
Also referred to as dominant and submissive play – one partner assumes total control while the other surrenders completely.
As the master, you dictate every action the servant performs from cleaning house naked to bringing you to orgasm orally whenever you please. Disobedience results in punishments like spanking, nipple clamps or denying release.
Dominant/submissive play builds incredible trust and intensifies orgasmic climaxes.
Always establish boundaries beforehand and use safe words. Start slowly before ramping up fetish levels.
Unleash your inner mistress!
29. Engage In Bondage
Introduce restraint bondage to render your partner powerless and heighten sensory ecstasy. Try the following acts:
- Tie his hands to the bed using silk restraints or a necktie
- Blindfold him then drizzle hot wax droplets down his chest
- Restrain his wrists and ankles with padded cuffs
- Clip his nipples using adjustable nipple clamps
Always confirm limits, use safewords and never leave restrained partners unattended. Bondage requires immense trust which profoundly deepens intimacy.
30. Attend A Sex Party Together
Lastly, if you crave adventure and pushing boundaries, an erotic couples-only sex party might be for you!
Attendees usually wear tantalizing outfits and some events offer erotic entertainment to set the mood before playspaces open for guest exploration.
Voyeurism and exhibitionism run rampant here within the sexually charged atmosphere. So attend an upscale party ready to indulge voyeuristic desires or show off a bit yourselves if you dare!
Let’s Wrap Up
I hope these 30 Wild and kinky Sex Ideas have sparked inspiration to tear up the sheets and reignite the flames between you and your lover!
While freaky new toys or locations can amplify excitement temporarily, remembering the emotional intimacy principles below will ensure your relationship stays hot long-term:
- Maintain open communication and regularly share fantasies
- Schedule sex dates to prioritize intimacy
- Praise and appreciate your partner often
- Work together to try new things that you both enjoy
- Don’t be afraid to laugh during awkward moments
- Always debrief afterwards, judge nothing and plan future adventures
By embracing your sexual creativity together in a safe, caring environment, your sex life and relationship will continue growing stronger than ever!
Now over to you – which of the 30 techniques above are you excited to try first? Let me know in the comments section below!
