The Ultimate Guide to Fingering Your Girl and Giving Her Intense Orgasms

Fingering your girl and giving her amazing orgasms may seem intimidating at first, but with the right techniques and a willingness to experiment and learn what she loves, you can become an expert at fingering her. This comprehensive guide will teach you everything you need to know about fingering your girl to give her earth-shattering orgasms.

Introduction

One of the most private and enjoyable sexual things you can do with your partner is fingering. You can get to know her really well, give her a lot of pleasure, and learn how to touch her in a way that makes her go crazy. Fingering is more than just sticking your fingers into her vagina. It may look easy at first, but there are many more skills that are involved. Fingering is an art that needs practice and close attention to detail. For example, you can stimulate her G-spot by moving your fingers in small loops over her clitoris.

The key is tuning into your partner, observing her reactions, and adjusting your technique based on the feedback she gives you through her moans, movements, and words. Every woman is different in terms of what type of touch and pressure she needs to reach orgasm. By taking the time to explore her body, you’ll discover the fingering methods that work best for her unique anatomy.

This guide will walk you through a variety of fingering techniques, from rubbing her clit to stimulating her G-spot and A-spot to penetrating her vagina and even incorporating anal play. While this covers a wide range of options, feel free to get creative and try new moves to see how your partner responds. The more you experiment together, the better you’ll get at fingering her to ecstasy.

So let’s get started with learning how to use your fingers to give her the most blissful orgasms of her life!

Her Anatomy

Before diving into specific fingering techniques, it’s important to familiarize yourself with the basic anatomy of the vagina and vulva. Understanding these parts of her body will help you better navigate her pleasure points as you use your fingers on and around her most sensitive areas.

The Vulva

The vulva refers to the external female genitalia, including:

Mons Pubis – This is the soft mound of fatty tissue that covers her pubic bone. It is covered with pubic hair when she does not shave or wax.
Labia Majora – These are the outer “lips” of the vulva, containing fatty tissues that cover the labia minora. They are usually covered in pubic hair.
Labia Minora – These inner lips are thin folds of skin that protect the opening of the vagina. They contain erectile tissue and are very sensitive.
Clitoral Hood – This fold of skin connects to the inner labia and covers the glans clitoris, protecting the nerve-dense clitoris.
Urethral Opening – This is where urine exits the body. Located below the clitoris and above the vaginal opening.
Vaginal Opening – The opening that leads to the vaginal canal and uterus.
Clitoris – An incredibly sensitive organ made of erectile tissue that swells with blood during arousal. It contains around 8,000 nerve endings and is the key to female sexual pleasure and orgasm for most women. The visible nub is called the glans clitoris.
Clitoral Crura – These internal extensions of erectile tissue form the clitoris and run back along the pubic arch around the vagina. You can feel them when massaging the area around the vulva.
Vestibular Bulbs – Also internal erectile tissue that sits beneath the labia minora on either side of the opening of the vagina.

The Vagina

The vagina is the stretchy, muscled tube that goes from the uterus to the vulva. When a woman is not excited, it is 3–4 inches deep. When she is aroused, it gets deeper. What you’ll find inside the vagina is:

Cervix – The narrow end of the uterus that protrudes into the vagina, feels similar to the tip of your nose. It has a small opening that dilates during childbirth.
G-Spot – An area 2-3 inches inside the front vaginal wall that swells with fluid during arousal. When stimulated it can lead to squirtting orgasm for some women.
A-Spot – A sensitive pleasure point located deep in the vagina, along the front wall before the cervix. Named the anterior fornix erotic zone.

Now that you’re familiar with her anatomy, let’s go over some key tips before getting into specific fingering techniques.

Key Tips for Fingering Her Right

Get consent and communicate – This should go without saying, but always get clear consent before fingering her and check in if you try something new. Ask her what feels good and pay attention to her verbal and non-verbal cues.
Build arousal first – Don’t go straight for fingering her vagina without turning her on first. Through kissing, touching, oral sex, use foreplay to get her wet and swollen before penetration.
Trim nails and remove rings – Sharp edges or jewelry can hurt the delicate tissue of her vagina. Make sure your hands are clean and nails trimmed and smooth.
Use lube – Especially when fingering her anus, lube will make things more comfortable. Have some on hand to avoid friction. Her natural lubrication usually suffices for vaginal fingering.
Start slowly and gently – Don’t jam your fingers inside right away. Tease the opening, massage the area around it, then slowly insert one finger and build up to more based on her comfort.
Get feedback – Pay attention to how her body responds and ask for feedback. Adjust your technique based on what makes her moan and writhe in pleasure.
Try different motions – Move your fingers in circles, curve them back and forth, rub up and down – experiment to see what she enjoys most.
Maintain contact throughout orgasm – As she climaxes, keep your fingers in place and maintain a steady rhythm. Don’t move too fast or stop suddenly.
Aftercare – After fingering her to orgasm, hold her, stroke her hair, keep her warm. The intimacy promotes bonding.

Now let’s get into the techniques!

Fingering Techniques for Her Clitoris

The clitoris is the epicenter of female sexual pleasure. Developing your fingering skills when it comes to stroking, rubbing, tapping and massaging her clit will make you an invaluable lover.

Here are some of the best clitoral fingering techniques to try:

1. Up and Down Rubbing

Place one or two lubricated fingers on either side of her clitoris
Apply light to medium pressure (ask her preference)
Move your fingers up and down over the shaft of the clitoris
Start slow and steady, gradually increase speed as she gets more aroused
Rub the sides, hood and tip – see what she likes best
Let her grind against your fingers to control speed and pressure

One of the oldest ways to directly trigger the clit is to rub it up and down. The contact and lubrication against this sensitive little nub will be very enjoyable. Read her body language to see if she wants more speed, pressure, or attention on her clit.

2. Circular Motions

Make circles around the clitoris with one or two fingers
Trace circles around the head and underneath on the inner labia
Vary size and speed of your circular motions
Apply different levels of pressure, from light to more firm
You can also try vertical circles or diagonal back and forth rubbing
Stimulate all around the clitoral head and shaft for variety

Making gentle or firm circular motions around the sides of her clitoral glans and underneath on the inner labia provides teasing indirect stimulation that many women enjoy. Cover all the territory to hit every sensitive spot.

3. Tapping

Use one or two fingers to gently tap up and down on her clitoris
Keep your touch light and fingertip pressure minimal
Start with a slow, steady rhythm
Gradually increase the rhythm as she gets closer to orgasm
Be very sensitive to her responses as this indirect stimulation can be intense
Alternate tapping with gentle rubbing to vary sensations

Direct touch of the clit can be too strong for some women. Many women find tapping very sexual because it gives the touch a lighter feel. It makes her feel like she’s being pulsed, which can drive her crazy. Start by hitting and rubbing gently against each other..

4. Clitoral Hood Stimulation

For women who have an extra sensitive clitoris, focusing on the clitoral hood provides that buffer that prevents overstimulation.

Gently rub or stroke up and down over the clitoral hood using one or two fingers
Apply light pressure to avoid direct stimulation of the clitoral head
Use her natural lubrication or added lube to create smooth motions
Adjust speed and touch based on her arousal level
Part her outer labia to access the clitoral hood if needed
Stimulate the sides and top of the hood where sensation radiates
The hood allows indirect contact that still feels amazing

By slowly moving toward the clitoris through the safe hood, you can give this pleasure zone a lot of stimulation without moving too quickly. Follow her lead on how to raise the pressure. If you thoroughly arouse her through the hood first, she’ll want direct clit touch when she’s ready.

5. Licking Motions

Use your index and middle finger together
Keep them relaxed, not rigid
Place them on either side of her clitoral hood
Move your fingers up and down as if licking with a soft tongue
Start slow and increase speed based on her reactions
The soft friction of this licking sensation can be very arousing

Mimicking oral sex, making licking motions along the sides of the clitoral hood provides teasing stimulation that builds anticipation. Keep your fingers soft and pliable for maximum pleasure.

6. Clitoral Massage

Place two fingers on either side of her clitoral shaft
Apply firm inward pressure while gently squeezing the area
Slowly release and repeat the squeezing motion
This indirectly stimulates the internal crura (legs) of the clitoris
Try applying vibrating pressure by trembling your fingers
Continue massaging all around the clitoral network

Massaging and squeezing the area around and underneath the clitoris stimulates the internal parts that extend back along the vulva. This feels amazing for most women and really warms things up before going for direct clitoral stimulation.

7. Frenulum of Clitoris

The frenulum of clitoris is the thin band of tissue that attaches the clitoral head to the shaft. It’s highly sensitive.

Place a lubricated finger on the frenulum
Gently stroke back and forth over this area
Experiment with speed and pressure based on her feedback
This targeted stimulation on the frenulum provides intense sensation
Try gently pulling on the frenulum then releasing

Don’t forget about the frenulum! For many women, this small spot has a lot of nerve endings that feel good. By fingering her in ways that focus on the frenulum, you can really push her over the edge.

8. Applying Vibration

Adding vibration can make your fingers that much more intense on her clit:

Use a fingertip vibrator that straps to your finger during fingering
A small bullet vibe can also be held against the clit for stimulation
Let her grind and press against the vibrator as you hold it in place
The buzzing sensation resonates through all the nerve endings
Try alternating vibrations with manual stimulation

Vibrators provide that extra oomph to your fingering game. Experiment with how you incorporate them based on her preferences. The stimulation combo is bound to blow her mind!

9. Two-Handed Technique

Place one hand over her pubic mound, palm down
Use two fingers of the other hand to stroke her clit up and down
Allow her to grind against your upper hand while you stimulate her clit
The pressure from your upper hand can feel extremely pleasurable
She controls the speed and pressure on her end

Using two hands allows you to stimulate multiple erogenous zones simultaneously. The added pressure and ability to thrust and grind makes this fingering method highly stimulating.

Fingering Techniques for the Vagina

Now that you have numerous options for fingering her clitoris, let’s move inside to the vagina. This is where G-spot and A-spot stimulation comes into play to really rock her world.

Here are the best techniques for fingering her vaginally:

1. Come Here Motion for G-Spot

The G-spot responds best to a come-hither motion targeting the front wall of her vagina.

Insert 1-2 fingers about 2 inches deep, along the front vaginal wall
Curl your fingers in a beckoning motion
Maintain pressure on the G-spot as you stroke in and out
Start slow then increase speed and intensity based on her response
Stimulate the full length of the G-spot zone

This classic G-spot fingering technique stimulates the area most likely to lead to female ejaculation. Curl towards her belly button and use the rough, ridged texture of your knuckles and fingertips to your advantage.

2. Stimulating the A-Spot

Place one finger as far back into her vagina as comfortable
Curl your finger to reach the A-spot located just before the cervix
Use a come hither motion, pressing into the front wall
Apply firm pressure, this area can take deeper stimulation
Stroke the A-spot with an in-and-out motion
Add G-spot stimulation with your other hand for a blended orgasm

Targeting the A-spot, even just grazing it while stimulating the G-spot, activates the deep internal nerve system for profound full-body pleasure.

3. U-Spot Stimulation

The U-spot is located above and on both sides of the urethral opening. It has erectile tissue that swells when aroused.

Make sure she’s very wet before stroking the U-spot
Use light, teasing touches around the urethral opening
Circle around this area and stroke up towards her clit
Gradually increase pressure based on her enjoyment
Alternate U-spot touches with clit stimulation

This indirect touching around the U-spot drives anticipation for direct clitoral stimulation. Take it slow and gentle to start.

4. Fingering Rhythmic Motions

Insert two fingers into her lubricated vagina
Apply pressure to the front wall as you thrust in and out
Start with a slow, steady rhythm
Listen to her breathing patterns and moans as you increase the tempo
Curl your fingers occasionally to graze the G-spot
Let her hips grind to meet the motion of your fingers

Building up from an easy rhythm to faster fingering motions gives time for arousal to grow. Allowing her to move in sync with your fingers makes this a highly intimate form of stimulation.

5. Try Different Positions

Woman on her back, knees bent – Classic position for comfort and intimacy. Provides easy access.
From behind – Reaching around to penetrate from behind provides G-spot access while spooning or doggy-style. Allows her to grind her hips.
Woman on top – She can straddle and lower herself onto your fingers. Gives her control of depth, speed and pressure.
Side by side – Lying facing each other provides closeness while still reaching her vagina. Allows kissing and caressing.
Sitting on your lap – Hands easily reach her vagina while she rides your fingers. Intimate face to face positions.
On all fours – Doggy-style provides tight G-spot access. Allows deep penetration and rapid thrusting.

Varying positions allows you to stimulate her G-spot and A-spot from different angles. Choose based on your preferences and comfort.

6. Stroking Internal “Jiggle” Areas

Some women enjoy stimulation of the upper vaginal walls where there is more “jiggle” to the soft tissue.

Insert two fingers and make a V-shape in the vagina
Position your fingers around 1-2 inches deep on the upper wall
Stroke this area using light fluttering motions
Alternate soft jiggling with deep cervical pressure
Stimulate the ridges and varying textures internally

Jiggling the softer areas of her internal vaginal walls provides unique sensations. Combining this with cervical tapping is intensely pleasurable for some women.

7. Cervical Tapping

The cervix is highly sensitive for some women. Using your fingers to tap or apply pressure to the cervix can be highly arousing.

Insert your middle finger towards the back of the vagina
Feel for the firm, round tip of her cervix
Gently tap or press this area using your fingertip
Start very softly and increase pressure based on her enjoyment
Be very cautious as too much pressure could be painful

The cervix responds best to light tapping as opposed to hard pressure. Gradually explore stimulation here based on her comfort level.

8. Pressing the Posterior Fornix

The posterior fornix refers to the area located behind the cervix, between the rectouterine pocket and vaginal canal.

Insert your middle finger towards the back of her vagina
Curve your finger around her cervix to reach the posterior fornix
Apply pressure by pressing your finger towards the small of her back
Start gently and gradually increase pressure into this area
Stroke the posterior fornix by making small circles with your finger

This pressured stimulation indirectly massages the cervix while focusing on an often neglected erogenous zone.

Anal Fingering Techniques

Moving to the posterior opening, anal fingering allows you to stimulate the nerve-dense anal passage. Approach slowly and communicate to make it pleasurable

1. Around the Rim

Before penetration, get her warmed up by gently massaging around the anal opening:

Make circular motions around the outer rim
Gently apply pressure without penetrating
Spread natural lube or add commercial lube
Insert just the fingertip and hold in place
Allow the sphincter to relax before going further
Apply more lube as needed

Massaging around the rim arouses the nerve endings and warms up the muscles to prepare for finger insertion. Going slowly allows the anus to relax before attempting penetration. Use lots of lube and pay close attention to her body language.

2. One Finger Insertion

Once the area is relaxed and lubed up:

Slowly insert your finger about an inch deep into the anus
Wait for the sphincter to relax before pushing in farther
Slide your finger in and out maintaining shallow penetration
Curl your finger gently to stimulate nerve endings
Monitor her reactions to make sure she’s comfortable
Use lots of lube and reapply frequently

Start with just the tip of one finger to open up the anus. Go exceptionally slow allowing time to open up before inserting farther.

3. Stroking Motions

Once your finger is fully inserted:

Make slow, gentle in-and-out stroking motions
Apply pressure along the sides by curling left and right
You can try twisting or spinning your finger gently
Focus on the first 2 inches inside the anus
Stimulate her clitoris simultaneously if she enjoys that
Avoid sudden or forceful thrusting motions

Gentle finger movements allow deep anal tissues and nerve endings to be stimulated without discomfort. Listen carefully to her feedback.

4. Two Fingers

If she’s enjoying one finger:

Lubricate a second finger liberally
Begin insertion only when fully relaxed and ready
Pause if there’s any tightness or discomfort
Slowly work both fingers in up to the second knuckle
Thrust very shallowly, no more than an inch or two
Twisting and scissoring fingers provides unique sensations

Some women enjoy the feeling of fullness from two fingers massaging just inside the anal opening. Ensure she’s very aroused before attempting.

5. Anal Toy Assistance

Toys can help relax anal sphincter muscles:

Begin with small butt plug to help her anus relax
Let her control insertion of the toy on her own terms
Remove plug once fully inserted, leave it in if she prefers
Finger around the toy to get the anus primed for stimulation
Use lots of lube and go slowly removing plug before fingering

Butt plugs are ideal for preparing the anus for fingering. Vibrating plugs add extra stimulation. Just go very slow.

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Unique Fingering Techniques

Here are a few more unique fingering techniques that provide intense sensations:

1. Labia Spreading

The labia minora contain numerous nerve endings that respond to touch. Try this:

Place your thumbs on her outer labia
Spread the outer labia open to expose the inner lips
Use your index fingers to stroke the inner labia up and down
Flick the inner lips back and forth using your fingertips
Part the inner lips to directly stimulate the clitoris
Spreading allows direct access to stimulate all areas

Gently pulling apart the labia exposes the clitoris and inner structures. The sensation of separating the lips is highly arousing.

2. Labia Pulling

Gently tugging the labia activates the tissue in a unique way:

Spread the labia minora open between your thumbs and index fingers
Take the labia between your fingers and gently pull outward
Slowly release allowing the labia to slide back in place
Avoid squeezing or pinching the labia too hard
The tugging causes blood flow to rush into the labia
Alternate with light tapping or fluttering motions

Many women enjoy the sensation of having their labia stretched and pulled lightly. The extra blood flow increases sensitivity.

3. Labia Massage

Massaging the labia majora externally is very relaxing:

Use your palms to gently massage the outer labia
Knead the fatty, cushiony tissue
Apply inward pressure to stimulate the internal structures
Allow your hands to graze her clitoris occasionally
Massage up and down the full length of the labia
This indirect stimulation teases the entire vulva region

A labia massage melts away tension while indirectly triggering intense arousal. Make it a seamless part of foreplay.

4. Perineal Massage

The perineum is the area between the vagina and anus. It contains nerve endings that respond to massage:

Use lubricated thumbs to press into the perineum
Roll your thumbs in circles over this area
Gently squeeze and release the perineal muscles
As arousal builds, press harder into the perineum
Massage all around the vaginal opening as well
Stroke the smooth skin between openings

Some women really enjoy the textures and heat that come from perineal massage. Just make sure your fingers don’t slip too far and cross contamination occurs.

5. The Adam’s Apple Massage

The internal clitoris actually surrounds the vaginal canal similar to how a man’s penis surrounds the urethra. You can stimulate what is called the Adam’s Apple:

Locate the slightly ridged area about 1 inch inside the canal
Use two fingers to press into the vagina on either side
Massage in small circles around this area
Stroke gently over the Adam’s Apple bulge
Start with light pressure and increase based on her response
This indirectly stimulates the internal clitoris

Many women aren’t aware of this hidden gem! Lightly massaging this zone provides unique sensations.

6. Orgasmic Meditation

Orgasmic meditation is a structured partner practice that cultivates connection and sensation:

She lies comfortably with legs open and relaxed
Use a latex glove and lubricant on your finger
With 1 finger, apply light strokes to upper left quadrant of clitoral head
Stroke at rate of about 1 per second for 15 minutes
Use no pressure, extremely gentle up-down motions
Avoid getting distracted or altering the pace
Communication afterward builds intimacy

This highly focused practice on just one area of the clitoris can create a continuous stream of sensation. It requires presence and constant tempo.

Escalating to Orgasms

Now that you have a wide variety of fingering techniques under your belt, here’s how to apply them to build her arousal throughout foreplay and bring her to climaxing orgasms:

Set the scene – Create a relaxing, intimate setting free of distractions. Light candles, play music, erotic stories on audiobook, and/or build sexual tension throughout the day via flirty texts.
Take your time – 20-30 minutes of varied foreplay allows arousal to slowly build rather than trying to force an orgasm prematurely.
Kiss passionately – Don’t underestimate the power of kissing to turn her on. Tease her lips, neck, nipples, inner thighs, ears as you kiss your way down her body.
Start indirect – Gently massage around her vulva before making direct clitoral contact to prime her for stimulation.
Go for the clit – Use circling, zig-zagging, tapping, rubbing motions on and around the clitoris based on her preferences.
Edge her – Switch to labia stroking when she’s close to orgasm to keep her in a highly aroused state before going back to the clit.
Insert fingers – As she gets wetter, gently insert 1-2 fingers into her vagina as you continue clit stimulation. Seek out her G-spot and A-spot.
Apply pressure – As she’s about to cum, apply firmer pressure while maintaining rhythm. Avoid suddenly increasing speed.
Come together – Try to climax together by coordinating the timing of your own stimulation. This is next-level intimate.
Afterglow – Continue holding each other, caressing, conversing, and basking in oxytocin!

How This All Leads to Female Ejaculation and Squirting Orgasms

Now that you have tons of options for fingering her to clitoral, vaginal, or even anal orgasms, let’s address the mysterious and highly pleasurable topic of female ejaculation, also known as squirting.

Some key points about squirting:

Requires intense G-spot stimulation, often with fingers able to apply strong pressure to the area
Involves relaxing and letting go which is hard for some women, takes trust in her partner
Results in release of milky fluid from Skene’s glands upon orgasm (not urine)
Requires her to be highly aroused before intense G-spot fingering

The key techniques that can lead to squirting are:

1) Come Here Motion – Using the come here motion with two fingers along the G-spot with strong pressure and rhythmic thrusting that doesn’t let up can make her ejaculate.

2) Rapid tapping – Tapping her G-spot rapidly while continuing clit stimulation can trigger the urge to release squirt fluid.

3) Toy assistance – A curved G-spot vibrator applies strong pressure to the G-spot while your mouth stimulates her clitoris. Using a toy provides the intense sensation some women need to squirt.

Here are more techniques that can lead to female ejaculation and squirting:

4) Building anticipation – Bringing her close to squirting over and over through edging builds anticipation until the dam finally breaks.

5) Overcoming mindset – Give reassurance, have towels ready, and help her move past inhibiting factors in her mind so she can let go.

6) Squirting positions – Positions like laying on her stomach with your fingers reaching the G-spot from behind make squirting more likely.

7) Clitoral vibration – The added stimulation of a vibrator on her clit as you tap and press the G-spot can enhance the squirting response.

8) Verbal encouragement – Giving loving yet urging commands like “just let it go, baby” can help her tip over the edge into squirting.

9) Relaxing PC muscles – If she practices relaxing and contracting her pelvic floor muscles, it’s easier to release squirting fluid.

10) Making a mess – Lay down towels and reassure her that you don’t mind if she makes a mess during the thrill of letting go and squirting.

The key is combining direct rapid G-spot stimulation with lots of clitoral stimulation until the urge to release becomes so powerful she can’t hold back anymore. Be patient, keep trying new angles and pressures, use toys if helpful, give reassurance, and celebrate whenever she reaches the point of squirting.

This new realm of pleasure will deepen your connection and trust like never before!

Conclusion

I hope this guide has eliminated any intimidation you may have felt about fingering a woman and instead instilled confidence in your knowledge of female sexual anatomy and the wide range of techniques you can now use to give her incredible pleasure!

The key principles to remember are:

Go slowly, pay attention to her unique responses
Escalate pressure and speed based on her feedback
Use lots of lubrication and reapply frequently
Combine external and internal stimulation
Listen to her cues, ask for direction, make adjustments
When in doubt, focus on steadiness over speed

Of course, communication is vital. As you try new moves, check in with your partner, seek her guidance, and speak up if something doesn’t feel right for your body. Sex should be 100% consensual and comfortable.

While it may take practice to master the art of fingering, the intimacy it creates and ability to give your lover intense orgasms will make the journey more than worthwhile. So take your time, have fun with exploration, and let her reactions guide you on being the best fingering partner possible!