How to Have Passionate Phone Sex: The Ultimate Guide

The thrill of phone sex can be a great way to get close to your partner when you can’t be together in person. If you know what to do and how to do it, phone sex can be just as hot and satisfying as real sex. You can learn everything you need to know to have intense, passionate phone sex like a pro from this lengthy guide.

Getting in the Right Headspace

Having great phone sex starts with getting yourself in the right headspace. Here are some tips to set the mood before your steamy phone date: (Read Dirty Talk Guide)

Create privacy. Make sure you’re in a private, comfortable place where you can relax and won’t be interrupted. Turn off distractions, lock the door, and put a “do not disturb” sign up.
Set the scene. Dim the lights, light some candles, play soft music, or do whatever helps make you feel relaxed, sensual, and in the mood.
Get comfortable. Wear something that makes you feel sexy, like lingerie or your favourite comfy clothes. Have pillows, blankets, lube, toys, or anything else handy to maximize pleasure.
Pamper yourself. Take a bath, groom yourself, oil your body, or anything else that makes you feel confident and sexy. A glass of wine or other drink can help release tension too.
Prime your mind. Read or watch something erotic to get your creative juices flowing. Recall a sexy memory or fantasy about your partner.
Set the mood with your voice. Speak slowly and softly. Let your voice convey your arousal. Moan sensually. Whisper seductively. Vocalize passion.

When you feel relaxed, sexy, and totally immersed in the mindset of hot phone sex, you’ll be able to have an intensely passionate experience.

Initiating Phone Sex

Once you’re in the right headspace, here are some sexy ways to initiate phone sex:

Flirtation: “Hey sexy, I can’t stop thinking about your body…”
Compliments: “Your voice is so hot, it’s getting me excited just hearing you talk.”
Requests: “I want you so bad right now. Talk dirty to me.”
Reminiscing: “Remember that time we did [sexual memory]? I’m so horny thinking about it.”
Fantasizing: “Know what I fantasize about sometimes? You and me having hot phone sex.”
Suggestiveness: “I wish you were here with me right now. We could have some fun…”
Directness: “Baby, I’m so wet/hard for you. Let’s have phone sex.”

Once you’ve initiated, give positive feedback like moans, heavy breathing, and comments like “Yes, that’s so hot!” to keep the steamy conversation flowing.

Setting the Scene

Once you’ve initiated phone sex, set the scene by descriptively painting a sexy picture for your partner. Here are some examples:

“I’m lying in bed wearing that red lacy lingerie you love. My skin feels so smooth and warm under the sheets.”
“I’ve got candles lit all around me and I’m slowly slipping my hand into my underwear.”
“I’m in the shower, water dripping down my body, wishing you were here to rub soap all over me.”
“It’s a hot summer night and all I’ve got on is those tiny black panties you bought me for my birthday.”
“I’m on the couch in sweats and your t-shirt, thinking about the last time we had sex on this couch.”

Vividly describe details like what you’re wearing, the setting, temperature, textures, sights, sounds, smells, etc. This verbal foreplay gets you both immersed in the fantasy.

Describing Your Body

Once you’ve set the scene, start describing your body and what you’re doing to yourself in tantalizing detail:

“I’m running my hands all over my breasts, teasing my hard nipples with my fingers.”
“My hands are wandering down between my legs, finding myself getting so wet through my panties.”
“My fingers lightly circle my clit, sending little pulses of pleasure through my body.”
“I slide a finger inside my dripping pussy, gasping at how good it feels.”
“My other hand keeps playing with my tits while I pump my fingers faster in my tight, wet pussy.”
“Mmm, I’m so wet baby. I wish this was your tongue/fingers/cock instead of mine.”

Vivid descriptions of your body, masturbation techniques, moans, and gasps will create an intensely arousing mental picture for your partner.

Responding to Your Partner

Don’t just talk about yourself – interact with your partner too! Here are some examples:

“Your moans are so sexy, keep going, baby.”
“Tell me what you’re doing to yourself right now.”
“Does that feel good when you stroke yourself like that?”
“Go faster/slower, I want to hear you enjoy yourself.”
“Your hard cock would feel so good inside me right now.”
“Let me hear you cum for me, baby.”

Give positive, encouraging feedback and share how much they’re turning you on. Ask questions to keep the sexual energy flowing between you.

Getting Dirty

Phone sex is the perfect time to get verbal and say all those naughty things you might be shy to say in person. Here are some ideas:

“You like when I talk dirty to you, you filthy slut?”
“I want you to fuck me hard with your big cock.”
“My pussy is so wet thinking about you pounding me.”
“Do you like hearing me finger my tight little pussy?”
“I want you to shove your cock down my throat and fuck my face.”
“Cum for me baby, I want you to explode.”

Don’t hold back – be graphic, shocking, tease and praise your partner. Let your inner vixen or horny devil come out to play!

Roleplaying Scenarios

Acting out sexual fantasies and roleplaying over the phone can take your intimate experience to the next level. Some fun roleplaying scenario ideas:

Naughty professor/student
Boss/secretary
Strangers meeting at a bar
Masquerade sex party
The photo shoot that turns sexy
Doctor/patient check-up
Handyman/lonely housewife
Undercover cops under the covers
Meeting an adult film star

The possibilities are endless! Discuss boundaries and interests first, then let loose your imagination and improv skills during the roleplay. Stay in character and have fun with the scenario!

Guiding Your Partner’s Pleasure

One hot way to have phone sex is by guiding your partner’s masturbation and pleasure with your voice. For example:

“Stroke it nice and slow baby, just like that…”
“Get yourself nice and hard for me before you can cum.”
“Put some lube on your cock and speed up now.”
“Rub your clit in tight little circles just how I would.”
“Moan louder for me, I want to hear how good it feels.”
“Keep stroking that big dick while I talk dirty to you.”
“You can only cum when I say so.”

Giving arousing instructions helps your partner indulge in pleasure under your naughty command. Tell them exactly how you want them to touch themselves. Ordering them when they can orgasm is deliciously dominating too.

Using Sex Toys

Toys can add extra pleasure and fun to phone sex. Discuss using toys together over the phone with ideas like:

“I’ve got my vibrator pressed right up against my clit thinking of you.”
“Imagine me sliding this dildo in and out of my tight pussy.”
“Do you have any toys you can use to stroke that big cock while I talk dirty to you?”
“I’m handcuffed to the bed playing with my favorite vibrator wishing you were here.”
“Let’s come together baby – I’ll use my toy on my pussy if you use yours on your cock.”

Hearing each other’s moans as you both use sex toys makes the experience incredibly intimate. Let your creativity enhance the pleasures of phone sex!

Simultaneous Masturbation

Masturbating together while having phone sex is intensely arousing. Here are some tips:

Describe what you’re doing to yourself in detail to let your partner’s imagination run wild.
Ask what they’re doing to themselves – visualize and respond erotically.
Breathing heavily, moaning loudly, and using each other’s names makes it hotter.
Orgasm when you’re both getting close for an amazing shared climax.

Don’t hold back – be vocal, dirty, graphic and completely immersed in the pleasure. Let your moans, gasps, and screams of ecstasy ring freely.
Build the momentum together, urging each other on with phrases like “Yes baby, moan for me!” and “Tell me how good it feels when you rub your clit like that.”
Use extra lube to enhance sensation as you fervently stroke, rub, tease and penetrate yourselves.
Describe what you want to do to each other when you’re together again to fuel the fire. “I want to shove you up against the wall and fuck you so hard”, “I’m going to ride your face all night”, etc.
Play with edging and orgasm control to draw out the thrill – “Don’t you dare cum yet!”
Penetrate yourself rhythmically to simulate actual sex. Pretend your fingers/toy is your partner’s hard, throbbing cock pounding you just the way you like it.
Take your free hand and grab, spank and massage your breasts, ass, thighs -whatever heightens your pleasure.
Visualize your bodies intertwined, passionately having sex as you masturbate. Picture your partner’s naked body and all the dirty things you want to do together.
Keep urging each other on until you have an intense, explosive shared orgasm! Nothing bonds you more intimately than coming together even when you’re apart.

Don’t hold anything back during simultaneous phone sex masturbation. Let loose completely and immerse yourselves in every moan, thrust and wave of erotic ecstasy!

Sensual Phone Sex Scenarios

Now let’s explore some specific phone sex scenarios to try together. Feel free to improvise and elaborate on these as inspiration strikes!

I. Hot Hotel Hookup

“Hey sexy…I’m lying in this hotel bed thinking about you. I wish you were here with me right now. I’d rip your clothes off and kiss every inch of your body. Then I’d pin your hands above your head and lick you from your neck all the way down to your inner thighs, teasing you until you were begging for more. And then I’d spread your legs wide and devour that sweet pussy until you were dripping wet and moaning my name. Are you touching yourself right now, baby? Just imagine it’s me between your legs, my warm tongue swirling over your clit. I want to hear every little gasp and moan…”

II. Steamy Shower Scene

“Mmm, I’m naked in the shower right now, water streaming over my body. The warm water flowing over my breasts and between my thighs is making me think of your hands caressing me. I’m rubbing soap all over my wet skin, imagining they’re your strong hands touching every curve of my body. My nipples are getting so hard. I wish you were here to lick the droplets of water off them right now. I keep getting glimpses of your hard cock through the wet glass door. Seeing you stroke it makes me ache to have you inside me. I’m leaning back against the cool tile now, legs spread wide. My fingers are circling my clit faster and faster as I watch you pleasure yourself. I want you to come join me under this warm spray so I can put my lips all over that big hard cock…”

III. Mile High Fun

“Guess what I’m wearing right now babe? That short skirt you love, with the lace thong underneath. I just boarded this flight and was thrilled to discover no one is sitting next to me. I think it’s time to take advantage of the situation. Let me slide up my skirt so you can see the outline of my pussy through the thin wet lace…you know how crazy the thrill of possibly getting caught makes me. I’m touching myself through my panties now, rubbing tight little circles around my swelling clit. Oh fuck…the flight attendant

IV. Car Fun

“Hey sexy, I’m sitting in the parking lot in my car, thinking about your hands all over me. It’s getting me so turned on. I’m wearing that sundress you love that gives you easy access. Let me slide up my skirt and slip my hand into my panties. Mmm I’m so wet for you already. I wish you were here to finger me right now. I’d unzip your pants and stroke your hard cock while you played with my clit. Then I’d straddle you and ease myself down onto you right here in the drivers seat, riding you while you grabbed my ass. I want to hear the sounds you make when you stroke your big dick. Let’s come together until we’re breathless and spent…”

V. Hot Yoga

“I just got out of yoga class and my body is craving your touch. I’m still wearing my tight leggings and sports bra, lying back on my mat. My skin is flushed and warm, breasts heaving up and down. I wish you were here to peel these sweaty clothes off me. I’d pull you close and kiss you deeply, nuzzling your neck as I helped you out of your shirt. Then I’d lie back and let you kiss down my neck to my breasts, closing my eyes as your tongue swirls my hard nipples. Your hands would slide lower, grasping my yoga-toned ass before slipping under my leggings to stroke my wet, aching pussy. Let me slide my fingers under the waistband and show you how good this feels…”

VI. Tropical Getaway

“I’m lying naked under the tropical sun on this secluded beach, missing your touch. The sound of the waves is so soothing. I’m thinking about the fruity cocktails we had last night before stumbling back to our room. I’m getting turned on remembering how you threw me down onto the bed, kissing every inch of my sun-kissed skin as your hands roamed my body. Even though we’re miles apart right now, replaying last night in my mind has got me so wet. I wish you were here right now to lick this sweet juice off my fingers. Let’s pleasure ourselves under the sun until we come like ocean waves…”

Expert Phone Sex Tips & Tricks

Use a hands-free device – This leaves your hands free for play.

Try Bluetooth or VR sex toys – Toys that sync sensations via an app really amplify the immersion.

Record your session – With consent, recording provides hot replay material.

Send each other sexy photos/videos – Visuals add extra texture.

Read erotica aloud – Literotica provides sexy inspiration. Take turns being the narrator.

Watch porn together – A shared visual can stoke the erotic energy.

Incorporate sex toys – Let them listen to you use your vibrator. Hearing is believing!

Masturbate together – The sounds of simultaneous self-pleasure is crazy arousing.

Take requests – Ask “What would you like me to do to myself?” Catering to their desires is intimate.

Let loose and get theatrical – Exaggerated moans and breathy commands heighten the drama!

Making Phone Sex Feel More Real

Your imagination is the most powerful tool for hot phone sex. But there are also some tricks that can help intensify the realism:

Use pet names – This makes things more intimate.

Describe your real setting – The ambience of your actual room sets the scene.

Highlight tactile sensations – Our strongest sense tied to memory is touch. “Your hands on my skin feel electric.”

Note familiar scents – Describing each other’s natural scent makes it feel more real.

Mimic real sex noises – Wet sounds, skin slapping noises and bed creaks help paint the sensual picture.

Speak in the present tense – “I’m kissing down your stomach…” pulls you into the action.

Note familiar details – “You feel even tighter than usual, baby” or “I know how much you love when I…”

Use your actual names – Nothing feels more intimate than hearing your name passionately gasped.

Afterglow Activities

Don’t abruptly hang up post-orgasm! Here are some sweet ideas for extending intimacy:

Cuddle verbally – Whisper how cosy you feel basking in the afterglow together.
Exchange appreciation – Express gratitude for each other and the pleasure you shared.
Chat about favourite moments – Relive the especially hot highlights.
Make future sex dates – Plan the next steamy phone rendezvous. Anticipation is delicious!

Have Fun Exploring!

Phone sex is a magical way to build intimacy and satisfy desires, no matter how far apart you are physically. By letting go of inhibitions, immersing in the moment, expressing your authentic lust and getting creative together, you can have profound, ecstatic experiences