Have you ever wished you could control your man in the bedroom? Do thoughts of taking charge, punishing others sexually, and enjoying endless pleasure keep going through your mind late at night?
You’re not alone.
Many women secretly long to unleash their inner domme, but don’t know where to start. That ends today.
In this complete guide, you’ll discover 19 arousing yet approachable tips to start dominating your man tonight – even if you’re shy, nervous, or lacking confidence.
Get ready to embrace your inner goddess…
Unlock Your Inner Domme in 3 Simple Steps
Step 1: Set the Scene
Ambiance and aesthetics set the tone. Draw the blinds, light some candles, and cue up a sultry playlist to get into the erotic mindset.
Send your man a coy text before he gets home:
“Be naked and waiting for me when I arrive. We have some ‘business’ to attend to tonight…”
Step 2: Adorn Yourself
Wear something that makes you feel sexy, powerful, and primal. Corsets, leather, lace, and thigh-high boots are classic domme accessories.
But don’t just stop at lingerie. Bold makeup, such as dark lipstick, smoky eyeshadow, or winged liner, amplifies the look.
Step 3: Initiate Action
You’re setting the stage to unleash your inner sexual goddess. Now it’s time for the fun part: dominating your eager man.
Ready to turn up the heat? Keep reading…
1. Take Control from the Start
Set the tone of complete control from the get-go.
Push your man against the wall and passionately kiss him. Grip his hair as your tongue explores his mouth. Grind your hips against his swelling manhood.
Breathily command in his ear exactly what you plan on doing to him next…
Owning the action builds sexual tension and lets him know you’re in charge tonight.
2. Bind His Body
Restraint is a cornerstone of domination. And nothing amplifies the sexy power dynamic like immobilizing your man exactly how you desire.
Start with handcuffs or silk ties to gently bind him to the bed. Increase intensity levels with:
- Blindfolds – Heighten his anticipation by eliminating sight
- Gags – Rendering him speechless makes him focus purely on touch
- Spreader bars – Force his legs open so you can lavish his loins
Combine multiple restraints to utterly own him.
3. Tease His Senses
Keep him guessing through unpredictable sensations. Blindfolding helps intensify every touch when he can’t see what’s coming next.
Build expectation by not having erotica. Before you grab his cock, run one finger up the inside of his legs. Gentle kiss his neck, then rub his nipples. Say sweet nothings and then deliciously dirty things you want.
Channel your inner domme and tease him right to the edge of orgasm. Then stop.
Rinse and repeat until he’s putty in your hands.
4. Take Your Pleasure First
Prioritizing your pleasure establishes you as his erotic leader.
Sit on his face and grind your pussy against his eager tongue and lips. Use his hair or ears to guide him exactly where you want. Ride that mouth to multiple, blissful orgasms.
Only after you’re fully satisfied should he even think about getting off.
5. Make Him Wait
Orgasm control establishes ultimate dominion over his pleasure.
Make your man pleasure you to climax after climax while denying his own release. Bind his hands, so he can’t stroke himself without permission.
If he gets close to cumming, firmly order him to stop and wait. Repeat this orgasm edge until he’s begging at your feet for an eruptive finale.
Choose if (and how) he finally climaxes. Or make him wait even longer according to your naughty whims…
6. Channel Your Inner Sex Goddess
Unleash flagrant commands to amplify the naughty domme vibes:
- Call him your slut, toy, pet, slave
- Force him to repeat, “I live to please you, Mistress”
- Order him to stroke/fuck you to orgasm
- Grant permission before he climaxes
- Make him lick you clean after sex
And if he hesitates even a second? Punish accordingly.
7. Mix Pain with Pleasure
Combining pain and pleasure creates devilishly delicious sensations.
Start gently with love bites on his neck and shoulders. Nibble his earlobe whispering sexy demands.
To go further:
Clamp his nipples – Apply pressure to these highly sensitive nodes
Spank his ass – Redden his rear with your bare hand or a paddle
Use hot wax – Let candle wax drip on his thighs and nipples
Mixing acute pain and intense stimulation overwhelms his senses. Watch his arousal spike as you push his boundaries.
8. Roleplay Naughty Fantasies
Take your sexy domme persona to the next level through fantasy roleplay scenarios. Here are some sizzling ideas to try:
Powerful boss / humble intern – Summon him into your home office dressed sharply in a pencil skirt, silk blouse & glasses. Seduce him as his superior as a “bonus.”
Mistress / slave – Deck out in leather lingerie with a whip, collar and cuffs. Treat your man as your personal plaything by “training” him to please you properly.
Brothel madam / customer – Don a corset, stockings and killer heels. Make your man pay for the privilege of serving under you by becoming your sexual servant.
Unleash your imagination and take any roleplaying as far as you both desire!
9. Talk Dirty to Him
Wield your words as skillfully as any paddle or flogger. Erotic vocabulary conveys your desires and dominance.
In the heat of passion, try commanding:
“Worship my body properly. I know you can do better than that!”
“Mmm yes just like that. Rub my clit just. like. that.”
“You can’t fuck me until I say so. Understand?”
Weave graphic descriptions of exactly how you plan to use his body with paraphrasing his level of enjoyment:
“You love when I ride that hard cock, don’t you, pet?”
10. Discipline Naughty Behavior
Punish disobedience or laziness with appropriate consequences, especially surrounding his climax.
Catch him stroking himself without your go-ahead? Slap that hand away and add extra orgasm denial.
Not using his tongue skillfully enough? Sit further back smothering him deeper between your luscious cheeks while chastising,
“I guess someone needs more pussy-licking lessons…”
Put him over your knee and spank his ass with an open palm or paddle if he dares talk back.
You’re in control. Disobedience has sexy penalties he won’t soon forget.
11. Ride His Face to Finish
Few things emphasize your raw feminine power like planting your pussy onto your man’s face and riding his eager tongue and lips to ecstasy.
Grip the headboard, grind your hips and envelop his head between your creamy thighs dangling inches above the bed.
Use his hair, ears or a handy leash clip to guide him exactly where you want. Smother him lustily until your climax crashes over.
Leave the poor guy gasping for breath once you finally finish. What a way to go!
12. Make Him Your Foot Servant
The sometimes-overlooked world of foot fetish submission offers plenty of sexy domme potential.
Some ideas:
- Command him to remove your heels/boots with his teeth
- Tease his raging hard-on with your toes and soles
- Fuck his cock with your feet until he erupts
- Coax him to lick your feet completely clean
- Trample his back and butt beneath your full weight
Feet can deliver powerful domination gameplay. Time to get those toes naughty!
13. Objectify Him as Your Toy
Ramming your man’s ass with a strap-on cock blurs gender roles in deliciously kinky ways. Wield your plastic phallus to deliver intense penetrative stimulation against his prostate.
But that’s just the beginning of this domme’s wicked workshop…
Dildos, vibrators, suction cups, butt plugs, erection rings, and urethral sounds can transform his body into your sexual plaything.
Restrain him so he can merely moan as you prod, pulse and plunge each erotic accessory to your desire. Ultimately his only purpose is your total fulfillment.
Now grab your favorite toy and play!
14. Force Him to Confess His Dirtiest Desires
The domme dynamic means you get exactly what you want while he submits unconditionally. Sound fun?
There’s just one catch: you must discover his naughtiest fantasies first. After all, it’s no fun dominating someone if you don’t intimately understand their deepest desires, right?
Through gentle yet assertive intimacy, create space for truthful transparency about his innermost longings. Use this insight for mutual fulfillment where he happily indulges your wishes knowing you’ll also satisfy his own.
Once his fantasies surface, twist them by making him confess every detail explicitly. Then put your own domme spin fulfilling them for your own delight!
15. Give Sensual Aftercare
While domination deals in departures from the mundane, never forget the human moments connecting you behind the roles.
After an intense scene where you’ve flooded each other’s bodies with newfound ecstasy, take time for sensual aftercare. These intimacy-building acts reinforce your care for each other.
Massage sore muscles. Apply healing lotion onto tender areas. Prepare a rejuvenating fruit platter. Run a soothing bath you both soak in. Gaze adoringly into his eyes. Trail fingertips slowly over his skin.
Verbalize empathy for any overwhelming feelings. Check in on his emotional state. And reassure your unwavering care for him as a person – not just a plaything.
This aftercare renews your spirits for next time…
16. Plan an Erotic Adventure Together
Once you’ve explored your inner domme, plan a sexy trip exclusively for carnal indulgence!
Splurge on a swanky hotel suite complete with jetted tub, plush robes, and a decadent king-sized bed perfect for binding someone spread-eagle.
Pack your domme go-bag with essential accessories like fur-lined handcuffs, a feather tickler, blindfold, portable magic wand, lube, massage oil, and condoms.
Schedule some couple’s massage time ensuring your bodies feel supple and relaxed. Then unleash your passions playing ‘Mistress & Servant’ late into the night without restraint.
Let loose and make naughty memories together!
17. Attend a Class Together
Preparation prevents poor performance, especially regarding domme skills. Rather than fumbling your way through scenes, enroll in workshops tailored to financial, ethical and technical domination competence.
Many major cities offer introductory classes through local kink organizations. You’ll meet seasoned players plus find events for future exploration.
Can’t attend in-person? Kink Academy and Kink University offer tons of online tutorials from bondage ties to impact play covering all the sexy domme basics at your own pace.
Arming yourself with knowledge before playing keeps things sexy yet safe for you both. Confidence follows…
18. Watch Femdom Videos
They say great artists steal – or at least gain inspiration from others. The same mentality applies to great doms/dommes!
Browse erotic femdom videos to discover domme techniques aligning with your interests. Seeing sexy skills in action is invaluable before replicating IRL.
Observe female domination of male slaves across:
- Cock & Ball Torture (CBT)
- Pegging
- Corporal punishment
- Smothering
- Cuckolding
- Financial Domination
Don’t copy things exactly (especially advanced activities). But let these videos spark domme ideas to try with your own twist!
19. Embrace Your Erotic Evolution
Discovering your inner domme unleashes confidence plus deeper connections through domination and submission. But the adventure has only just begun…
Starting tonight, embrace your continuous evolution toward higher erotic consciousness with your devoted partner. Discover fulfilling new facets of your sexuality like:
- Goddess worship
- Pet play
- Dungeon mastering
- Humiliation
- Sadism/masochism
Keep exploring, learning and expanding limits over time. Grow into the powerful sexual being you were created to become.
The world is your kinky oyster – now claim it!
Let Your Inner Domme Roam Free
Unleashing your inner domme creates deliciously naughty opportunities unavailable through vanilla sex alone.
You’ll build confidence embracing this integral aspect of your passionate nature. New discoveries awaken dormant sensations within plus deeper dimensions of relating.
Starting tonight, put these tips into practice no matter your experience level or nervousness. Allow yourself to savor absolute control over both your desire and his.
The time has come to finally set that inner domme free. She’s waiting for you. Enjoy the sexy ride…
What naughty domme tips do you have to share? Let everyone know in the comments!
FAQ’S
What if I’m too nervous or shy to actually try dominating my partner?
It’s totally normal to feel nervous about acting dominant if you’re naturally more submissive. Start slow by easing into more assertive body language or speech. Send flirty yet firm texts about what you want to try later. Build your confidence over multiple encounters rather than pushing too far too fast.
Do I need a bunch of expensive BDSM gear?
You absolutely don’t need a full dungeon’s worth of equipment, especially when starting out! Items like silk scarves, candles, blindfolds, paddles or even your bare hands can transform normal sex into thrilling domination play. Focus first on your physicality and mindset rather than intimidating accessories.
How do I introduce this kink to my reluctant partner?
First emphasize how common power play fantasies are, especially for men. Explain how embracing both your dominant sides could lead to incredibly heightened passion and intimacy. Start slowly with more vanilla sensory play like feather tickling or hot wax dripping before suggesting anything more extreme. Make the first encounter all about providing him overwhelming ecstasy. Once he experiences submitted bliss, he may be begging for your domination again!
What if inflicting pain makes me uncomfortable?
You don’t need to do anything you dislike or finds unsexy. Mixing pain with pleasure isn’t for everyone. You can absolutely still dominate your man through commanding words, enforcing obedience, restraints, erotic teasing or orgasm control alone without getting physical. Discover which domme activities align best with your comfort levels.
Is all this unusual domme activities unhealthy for our normal relationship?
If performed ethically, consensual domme/sub play can dramatically deepen intimacy by requiring implicit trust and vulnerability. Take time to emotionally reconnect after through gentle aftercare like soothing massage, laughter, snacks or a relaxing bath together. Set clear off-limits and safe words so either party can instantly stop the scene if anything feels “off.” Maintain open communication always. Think of BDSM as sexual seasoning enriching your bond in exciting new ways!
